One of those days when I feel ‘am a single mother’ …πŸ€¦πŸ€·πŸ™Ž

Parenting is tough. Not everyone can get down to become a hands on mom or dad! I guess in my case it comes naturally to me…I loved kids even before I had one of my own. And then I gave birth to my life!! My adorable son. I will pass on to saying “our son” today as am in an irritated zone. 

Being a working mom makes it even more difficult. Firstly they have to leave kids back for work daily (even though some of them might want to be a stay back home mom) ; then to slog themselves @work and reach home fighting the cab drives & traffic; then to keep patience and attend the toddler with a big smile,full energy and enthusiasm! Playing with him, Feeding him dinner, Changing him for sleep, brushing teeth, putting him to bed… Cleaning the kitchen…Blah..Blah..

Problem here is not that we don’t want to do these things but that thought that why always me??  why is it only the mothers primarily who’s responsibility is the kid. Why can’t the father’s share these responsibilities equally?? Simple tasks like making them brush or feed food, or putting the child to bed?….Why do they only come in action when these tired moms start barking and these godly father’s have to take their turns!!

Am sure it’s not just me but a whole bunch of tired momma’s out there! Who wish & pray that their husbands start realizing soon enough that parenting is partnership and not either one of them’s lone project. 
For me it happens one in a while and I can handle myself either talking about it with my partner, or writing up something to unleash my inner frustration, or go shopping with my kid, making a pumpkin face also helps!!  But what really worries me is the situation of those women who don’t even have the liberty or the life to do that..Day in and day out…They just keep on dragging themselves keeping a brave face in front of the kid. 

Please father’s step up. I request. 

An enthusiastic yet tired momma signing off!!

Love, Devansh’s mom β™₯️

Get up you lazy Momma!

Ok ok..I know you all are not lazy. Not at all. Your day is full of things to do for your family, husband, in-laws, kids and whom so ever it may concern. But what about yourself? In my head am thinking if this is what I need to tell myself actually! 

I, like any other women in this world dreams to be this fit sexy bitch the world loves to love! But to get that awesomeness in myself I have to give priority to myself. Pulling myself out of bed in morning, rushing for office, working their like a donkey or a bitch whatever you consider yourself, running back home, taking care of your kid..feeding him.. putting him to bed.. singing him lullabies..feeding family and myself..when I look at the clock it’s already 11ish! After that I just want to relax and sit back read or write something. That’s it! For in numerous times I downloaded all those 7 minutes workout apps BUT alas you have to use them to loose weight. Only downloading does not heLp! So sad…

While I keep pushing myself and all of you to get in that fitness mode… I have to take you all to the shortcut or the cheat street to be not caught as the lazy ass by the world around us! 

1) Green Tea – this definitely does some magic to me. And people around you think you are one serious chick working hard to loose that extra inch (brownie points baby)

2) Warm water – instead of normal or cold temperature water, drink warm water the whole day. It helps 

3) Less Carbohydrates – instead of eating equal proportions of wheat /rice and vegetables…eat more veggies & proteins in form of fish or lentils and less rice or breads in your meals

4) Dress up – as I always say, dress stylish. Don’t wear tight fitted clothes which will only show all your love tyres around your waist but instead choose fits those are not too tight nor loose. Make you feel good but not uncomfortable. 

4) Wear your attitude & if possible heels too – wearing heels improves your posture and gives you a slender feel . If you are mom, let the daddy carry the child for once. Its ok!!

P.S. All the below pics are after I had my child. AND I do have my c-sec belly fat! 

Stay stylishπŸ’•
Love, Sujata πŸ’‹

AM Β HaPPiest wHen DanCIng! πŸ•ΊπŸ’ƒπŸ•΄οΈ

One of my son’s favourite rhymes is”If you are happy and you know it, clap you hands..clap..clap”
My version goes as..”If you are stressed and you wanna be happy..dance…dance” 

Everyone should have a switch on and off to their brains ! With such a demanding stressed out life we all are leading, there are times when you just want to switch yourself out of that chaos and be in your own zone. Different people have different formulas to do that..cooking, reading, traveling, playing sports, gossiping, watching tv, taking out the frustration on someone else… well mine is dancing. 

DancIng is mediation for me..it keeps me positive and my soul happy!! It doesn’t matter if you are technically sound or not in any of the dance forms..I am not! Never been trained.  But still I dance..I dance from my heart…music brings life to my body and energy from within…and I just flow with the music in my world…moving and swinging along…

People go to parties you know for having a good time with friends on dinner and drinks..but for me the best evening would be where I can dance my heart out ; Where am so engrossed dancing that when am off my stilettoes am unaware…

Top 5 reasons to start Dancing if you haven’t yet :

1) Brings Happiness to you 😊

2) Helps in weight management πŸ”© without feeling the pain in gym or dieting

3) Makes your body flexible

4) Popularity. For people at any party.. they look up to someone who starts the dance of the evening and you will instantly become the heart and life of the party 

5) It increases your hotness quotient πŸ˜‰ if you have the moves..you gotta show it baby. 

Worth a try! Isn’t it?

Stay happy!! Keep dancing!!πŸ’ž

Love, Sujata πŸ’•

What this MoM Β is wearing this winters?? πŸ§β˜ƒοΈβ„οΈπŸŒ¨οΈπŸ‘’

Winters are best enjoyed when your fashion and comfort both go hand in hand. Fashion that keeps you cozy and warms up your heart.

From parties to picnics…check all out!

Look 1 : This is for Birthday party of my Son at our place with friends and family in attendance. Something like this calls for a nice comfortable dress which looks chic and at the same time gives you freedom to move around freely attending and serving your guests..playing with your kid and his friends. I choose to wear this cute black beaded @mango dress providing the correct amount of glitter with cutest @pramod fur collar cardigan

Look 2 : Picnic Outing . Winters are the time for picnics with your loved ones. Delhi an otherwise warm city is all nice and sunny in winters, perfect for these outings. I choose to wear @veromoda trousers with a very smart back zipper detail adding all the glamour and right fit, pastel powder blue knitted top with an Olive color leather jacket. Olive leather jackets are a must in your wardrobe & trending this season. Add your leather boots and tie your hair up..so you can run around your kid like a kid 

Look 3 – Loads of parties are lined up in winters..so sharing few of my favorite party looks. 

I teamed up my hand beaded @Lovelabel black raw silk dress with a gold sequinned jacket from the same fashion brand. I love their stuff. Leave your hair open and go wild and sexy!!

In another of my look for a girls party, I teamed my very old woollen dress with leather boots and open hair. This woollen dress is in my closet from past 9 year and I pull it out every season and love wearing it for its comfort , color, coziness

Stay stylish, stay inspired πŸ’ž
Much love, Sujata πŸ’•

Birthday Letter to My Baby! Happy 3rd Devansh…πŸŽŠπŸ’πŸŽ‚πŸ₯‚πŸŽ‰

Dear Devansh, (Hi Baby)
Its feels so amazing and unreal at the very same time…you are turning 3 and so am I as a mother!! Feels like just the other day I had you in my arms… like a soft cuddly cotton ball for the 1st time in my hospital bed. The feeling The love The excitement..all is so fresh in our hearts and memories. You have made my life so beautiful..our little world so full of life!

There’s nothing in the world more previous than you..your hugs..your smile..You complete me baby! After marrying your father I always told him that he completes me, until one day I had you…I had never felt such a feeling of completeness from within, the feeling to protect someone, wanting to always be around.. take care off, cuddle, love, kiss ( which you might say to stop in coming few years) You complete US. 

A moment earlier we were celebrating the fact that you were standing..walking.. babbling the first words..had teeth..And look at you now! Monkey!! A chatter box!! Jumping jack!! … repeating everything we say.. giving everyone around directions as what to say or do to you. Climbing to the highest sofa points and jumping from there…making us nervous all the time. Being a boy…

Your love for alphabets & numbers is unmatched. For us you are a genius…you were reading and  writing alphabets/ numbers since you were an infant. Cars, TV, toys aren’t your thing…all you want is either your tab to look at nursery rhymes videos or write and play those educational applications or your writing boards. You make your Talking Tom’s & Talking Ben’s & Talking Ginger’s repeat rhymes, alphabets and numbers after you..they are your friends. You are writing words like “dolphin”, “eight” as if they are nothing. You are giving me language learning goals #You write and read numbers in Spanish??!! You are telling me planets name…!! I haven’t taught you this..YOU TUBE has…Your love for dogs & cats is pushing me to get you a pet soon. 

Few days ago it hit me that how independent you have become. I was leaving for office and you said “Bye Mumma” I/o wanted to stop me as usual. You now understand maybe that this lady is coming back to me anyhow..and have therefore learnt staying happy even w/o me…this is hard to accept as a mom. Its hard on me. Why do you have to grow so fast!? 

No matter how hard the day wad, you would always lighten it up with your smile. you are by motivation to keep going on.. being strong. You have filled our life with joy and laughter. Am grateful and thank God each day for this amazingly beautiful child he has gifted me with. You made me the happiest mom in the world! 

Happy 3rd Birthday Bhutts…I love you! Mwahh..πŸ’ž

Love,

Mumma πŸ’•

Can this Fashionista Mom..be a good Mom??!! β£οΈπŸ€”πŸ˜ŽπŸ’­πŸšΊβ‰οΈ

What’s the definition of a good mother? Who has defined what an ideal mother should be like? Am I one of those good & ideal mom’s the world admires ?? 

Well why do we mom’s even need to think about all these questions? Is it because I feel am being judged all the time! Think so yes… I feel a section of society or few from even my family take me by doubt if I think what to wear today or take 10 mins extra to put on my make up? 

Do you love your baby…Yes, ofcourse ..I do!! Why are you even asking me…

Do you love fashion…Yes, I do!! 
But how can you be 200% “The Mommy” if you aren’t thinking about your baby, his food, his routine…blah..blah..and stopping at your wardrobe thinking about which clothes to wear for work tomorrow! 

The world wants the mothers to be on their toes all the time either taking care of the babies, or cooking, or cleaning, or taking care of seniors, or … basically is busy doing something for others rather than herself!!…ugghh..stupid!  Well I had to grow up and grow out of this…AND so should you girl!!

Am a working mom and besides being the best mom in the world I have to prove myself the best at my job as well…Fashion derives my passion! Whichever job you maybe in but you can’t look like as if you are disinterested and coming to your job is just a.. you know.. routine thing…or you have any less interest in your job than your colleagues…

So you got to get up and take notice of yourself…stare yourself in the mirror and see if you wish to change anything…

Your baby is in love with you already…he doesn’t wants his mom to be loving him w/o loving herself. Just plan your day in such a way that you can take out some time for yourself, keep yourself motivated, pray or meditate for a while, exercise regularly even if for 10 mins, eat healthy, dress well. Your baby is the magic you created and you can keep him as happy as you feel from within!!

As I always say, keep it simple yet stylish!! 

How & What I am wearing : 

1) Wear on your basic jeggings @only with a comfy crop top @forever21 ; comfy all day long ballerina from @H&M and put on a biker jacket 100% leather to give yourself that edge at your workplace

2) Slip in a nice knee length dress, make sure the fit is right. {In case of bulges please workout and wear those aweful uncomfortable shapewears…} Accessories to add on will be your shades, watch, statement earrings, ring, bag and wedge heels for comfort

3) Patterned printed stretchable pants and w/o sleeves ivory silk shirt with Chinese collar from  @vanhausen . Throw on a blazer to get that semi formal office look. Again wedge heels for comfort and hair bun for fun!!

Stay inspired, Stay stylish!!

Love, Sujata πŸ’•

I have nothing to WrItE BUT I will…and you must ReAd…

Why am I writing here when I have nothing specific to share!!?? Why am I trying to think..think hard…what am I trying to think??!!        Is it about life..my life..your life…about my child’s future life… strange…Donn know what.! Seriously!!  But exactly that’s the thought…does it happens to you..!? Am sure it does…we all keep thinking, keep our brains busy almost all the time. Thinking about what to do next, or why did we did something in the past…Our thoughts keep wandering without any anchor and we just don’t know where to pull ourselves back or put a stop on our brainless use of our own brains…

Somekind of passion, somekind of craziness….my stupid heart is talking about all these hundreds of things to me …

What’s the fun in talking sense always…its good to just flow in your thoughts and come to no exact conclusions… thinking about your past & present failures and successes with life, love, marriage, relationships, academics, work life, expectations, parents, affairs, bosses, crushes, travels, what I could have shopped that day, the street side vendor, my maid’s kids, an Ambani’s life, Shahrukh Khan, Branjila’s divorce, anything…

Believe me it will refresh you in a new way..

Goodnight peeps. Sleep tight, dream well..& those who are starting their day, rise and shine..be radiant ..like always. Remember “You are better than your competition…”

Love, Sujata πŸ’•

P.S. Thanks to my baby who slept well on time today & my husband who’s surprise presentation preparation at office today gave me this ME time with myself..and now I will sleep tight..sleep light …