One of those days when I feel ‘am a single mother’ …πŸ€¦πŸ€·πŸ™Ž

Parenting is tough. Not everyone can get down to become a hands on mom or dad! I guess in my case it comes naturally to me…I loved kids even before I had one of my own. And then I gave birth to my life!! My adorable son. I will pass on to saying “our son” today as am in an irritated zone. 

Being a working mom makes it even more difficult. Firstly they have to leave kids back for work daily (even though some of them might want to be a stay back home mom) ; then to slog themselves @work and reach home fighting the cab drives & traffic; then to keep patience and attend the toddler with a big smile,full energy and enthusiasm! Playing with him, Feeding him dinner, Changing him for sleep, brushing teeth, putting him to bed… Cleaning the kitchen…Blah..Blah..

Problem here is not that we don’t want to do these things but that thought that why always me??  why is it only the mothers primarily who’s responsibility is the kid. Why can’t the father’s share these responsibilities equally?? Simple tasks like making them brush or feed food, or putting the child to bed?….Why do they only come in action when these tired moms start barking and these godly father’s have to take their turns!!

Am sure it’s not just me but a whole bunch of tired momma’s out there! Who wish & pray that their husbands start realizing soon enough that parenting is partnership and not either one of them’s lone project. 
For me it happens one in a while and I can handle myself either talking about it with my partner, or writing up something to unleash my inner frustration, or go shopping with my kid, making a pumpkin face also helps!!  But what really worries me is the situation of those women who don’t even have the liberty or the life to do that..Day in and day out…They just keep on dragging themselves keeping a brave face in front of the kid. 

Please father’s step up. I request. 

An enthusiastic yet tired momma signing off!!

Love, Devansh’s mom β™₯️

New Year Resolution – Stand for you rights, what you deserve for.

Actually the above is not my resolution of the year …Thats the change i want to see in myself…

As a daughter, sister, wife, daughter in-law, sister in-law, mother, employee, employer, senior, junior, friend…I guess in all my roles I never demanded for what I deserve. I always think that if I deserve I will get what I want…But in true world that’s not the case. 

I for the longest time now want to stand up for myself but I consistently fail. Why?? What I fear for, why I fear…I shouldn’t be in this position. Maybe I fear rejection. And hate uneasy mess in my world! I want a positive, happy environment around me all the time and that’s why I always want to keep people around me happy. What I can do for people around me..I try and do every bit of it, I walk that extra mile to keep smiles. But do I get my due in return..Well, not always. 

My family I know will stick around me all the time, but what about my other relationships. My efforts here will be paid off in long run.          But My friends..For whom I might be just any other friend whom they will forget once their purpose is sorted. My colleagues, who might just use me for their benefit and take out work from me and then move on in their life. My seniors at work, who again just want their work done and a pleasant face around them who doesn’t cribs and complains about anything.  People who work for me, maybe they are just happy sticking around me as I make no noise about job not done and don’t poke nose in the way they do their jobs…AND I in between of all this stand like a sponge ball.. Absorbing everything and wanting to spread happiness by not creating problems in others life by asking for anything for my own self. 

But does all this works for me…To some extent YES…As my people happy = Me happy 

But again, if I start asking people to give me or behave in a way I deserve for..Will that change the situation for any better. ? 

I have found I guess a good friend cum young sister kinds in one of my colleagues Isha…She is like fire to me..Always glowing, fearless, knows how to say NO, never apologetic for standing for her rights..What she feels she deserves for she would just go for it …Speaks her heart out & That’s what I want to become! (In some ways no too 🀣 that I can discuss later)

I hope am able to make this year a fantastic one. The change has to be made from within and the urge to change things for the better has been growing in me for a while now. I wish for overall well-being and nurturing of self-confidence and positive thinking for myself & everyone connected to me. God please help me in my mission. πŸ™βœŒοΈ

Love,

Sujata πŸ’•

Can this Fashionista Mom..be a good Mom??!! β£οΈπŸ€”πŸ˜ŽπŸ’­πŸšΊβ‰οΈ

What’s the definition of a good mother? Who has defined what an ideal mother should be like? Am I one of those good & ideal mom’s the world admires ?? 

Well why do we mom’s even need to think about all these questions? Is it because I feel am being judged all the time! Think so yes… I feel a section of society or few from even my family take me by doubt if I think what to wear today or take 10 mins extra to put on my make up? 

Do you love your baby…Yes, ofcourse ..I do!! Why are you even asking me…

Do you love fashion…Yes, I do!! 
But how can you be 200% “The Mommy” if you aren’t thinking about your baby, his food, his routine…blah..blah..and stopping at your wardrobe thinking about which clothes to wear for work tomorrow! 

The world wants the mothers to be on their toes all the time either taking care of the babies, or cooking, or cleaning, or taking care of seniors, or … basically is busy doing something for others rather than herself!!…ugghh..stupid!  Well I had to grow up and grow out of this…AND so should you girl!!

Am a working mom and besides being the best mom in the world I have to prove myself the best at my job as well…Fashion derives my passion! Whichever job you maybe in but you can’t look like as if you are disinterested and coming to your job is just a.. you know.. routine thing…or you have any less interest in your job than your colleagues…

So you got to get up and take notice of yourself…stare yourself in the mirror and see if you wish to change anything…

Your baby is in love with you already…he doesn’t wants his mom to be loving him w/o loving herself. Just plan your day in such a way that you can take out some time for yourself, keep yourself motivated, pray or meditate for a while, exercise regularly even if for 10 mins, eat healthy, dress well. Your baby is the magic you created and you can keep him as happy as you feel from within!!

As I always say, keep it simple yet stylish!! 

How & What I am wearing : 

1) Wear on your basic jeggings @only with a comfy crop top @forever21 ; comfy all day long ballerina from @H&M and put on a biker jacket 100% leather to give yourself that edge at your workplace

2) Slip in a nice knee length dress, make sure the fit is right. {In case of bulges please workout and wear those aweful uncomfortable shapewears…} Accessories to add on will be your shades, watch, statement earrings, ring, bag and wedge heels for comfort

3) Patterned printed stretchable pants and w/o sleeves ivory silk shirt with Chinese collar from  @vanhausen . Throw on a blazer to get that semi formal office look. Again wedge heels for comfort and hair bun for fun!!

Stay inspired, Stay stylish!!

Love, Sujata πŸ’•

I have nothing to WrItE BUT I will…and you must ReAd…

Why am I writing here when I have nothing specific to share!!?? Why am I trying to think..think hard…what am I trying to think??!!        Is it about life..my life..your life…about my child’s future life… strange…Donn know what.! Seriously!!  But exactly that’s the thought…does it happens to you..!? Am sure it does…we all keep thinking, keep our brains busy almost all the time. Thinking about what to do next, or why did we did something in the past…Our thoughts keep wandering without any anchor and we just don’t know where to pull ourselves back or put a stop on our brainless use of our own brains…

Somekind of passion, somekind of craziness….my stupid heart is talking about all these hundreds of things to me …

What’s the fun in talking sense always…its good to just flow in your thoughts and come to no exact conclusions… thinking about your past & present failures and successes with life, love, marriage, relationships, academics, work life, expectations, parents, affairs, bosses, crushes, travels, what I could have shopped that day, the street side vendor, my maid’s kids, an Ambani’s life, Shahrukh Khan, Branjila’s divorce, anything…

Believe me it will refresh you in a new way..

Goodnight peeps. Sleep tight, dream well..& those who are starting their day, rise and shine..be radiant ..like always. Remember “You are better than your competition…”

Love, Sujata πŸ’•

P.S. Thanks to my baby who slept well on time today & my husband who’s surprise presentation preparation at office today gave me this ME time with myself..and now I will sleep tight..sleep light …