Mothers- Travel tips & looks are here for you!

When you travel with a little one, all you want is comfort clothing coz that’s what is required at the end of the travel tunnel. From breastfeeds to changing diapers to rushing to loos for poop alarms!…All this and more to manage for any parent is a task!

The task gets ambitious when the case is of a fashionista mom without any help around. And this where am stepping in to give some useful tips to the new mom’s. My lo is 4+ now so I feel quite experienced.

We have travelled by air, road and trains with some small time travel on boats too!

– The first tip will be to wear something light and wear in layers. So in case it’s cold you can be comfortable. With layers on its easier to feed babies. And also you can clean your hands every time you or the baby spills something…I understand that even if we carry wet tissues, towels, ets it’s not practically possible each time with a little one to even open your bag for yourself.

– Second tip: wear easy slip on shoes. Go for flats or wedges. Keep heels for later. Since leg space is not great all the time in flights, even in cars you want to sit easy, in trains again you can’t be sitting always…so easier to just slip out and in your shoes each time and quickly. You don’t want to waste time in tying your shoe laces…so be mindful

– Third tip would be that whatever pants you choose to wear, make sure it’s not tedious to close the zip or that buckle. If wearing Indian salwar kameez, better to opt for salwar with elastic I/o drawstrings. Saves time and is convenient if Baby is with you in washroom while you are peeing or whatever!!

THE TRAVEL LOOKS ✈️ 🚂 🚘 🚤

@zara jeggings / white sneakers (fake shoelaces)/ long sleeve button down shirt/ Adidas jacket with Red bobby brown lips and @forevernew sunglasses

@Only handkerchief hem dress/ oversized denim jacket with embroidery/ white sneakers 👟

@cottons printed suit with easticated palazzo pants/ wedges on foot

These were few of my experiences shared with fellow mothers. If you find them useful do let me know. Also in case you need any kind of travel tips, am reading all here!

Happy travels: Safe travels

Love, Sujata💕

One of those days when I feel ‘am a single mother’ …🤦🤷🙎

Parenting is tough. Not everyone can get down to become a hands on mom or dad! I guess in my case it comes naturally to me…I loved kids even before I had one of my own. And then I gave birth to my life!! My adorable son. I will pass on to saying “our son” today as am in an irritated zone. 

Being a working mom makes it even more difficult. Firstly they have to leave kids back for work daily (even though some of them might want to be a stay back home mom) ; then to slog themselves @work and reach home fighting the cab drives & traffic; then to keep patience and attend the toddler with a big smile,full energy and enthusiasm! Playing with him, Feeding him dinner, Changing him for sleep, brushing teeth, putting him to bed… Cleaning the kitchen…Blah..Blah..

Problem here is not that we don’t want to do these things but that thought that why always me??  why is it only the mothers primarily who’s responsibility is the kid. Why can’t the father’s share these responsibilities equally?? Simple tasks like making them brush or feed food, or putting the child to bed?….Why do they only come in action when these tired moms start barking and these godly father’s have to take their turns!!

Am sure it’s not just me but a whole bunch of tired momma’s out there! Who wish & pray that their husbands start realizing soon enough that parenting is partnership and not either one of them’s lone project. 
For me it happens one in a while and I can handle myself either talking about it with my partner, or writing up something to unleash my inner frustration, or go shopping with my kid, making a pumpkin face also helps!!  But what really worries me is the situation of those women who don’t even have the liberty or the life to do that..Day in and day out…They just keep on dragging themselves keeping a brave face in front of the kid. 

Please father’s step up. I request. 

An enthusiastic yet tired momma signing off!!

Love, Devansh’s mom ♥️

Get up you lazy Momma!

Ok ok..I know you all are not lazy. Not at all. Your day is full of things to do for your family, husband, in-laws, kids and whom so ever it may concern. But what about yourself? In my head am thinking if this is what I need to tell myself actually! 

I, like any other women in this world dreams to be this fit sexy bitch the world loves to love! But to get that awesomeness in myself I have to give priority to myself. Pulling myself out of bed in morning, rushing for office, working their like a donkey or a bitch whatever you consider yourself, running back home, taking care of your kid..feeding him.. putting him to bed.. singing him lullabies..feeding family and myself..when I look at the clock it’s already 11ish! After that I just want to relax and sit back read or write something. That’s it! For in numerous times I downloaded all those 7 minutes workout apps BUT alas you have to use them to loose weight. Only downloading does not heLp! So sad…

While I keep pushing myself and all of you to get in that fitness mode… I have to take you all to the shortcut or the cheat street to be not caught as the lazy ass by the world around us! 

1) Green Tea – this definitely does some magic to me. And people around you think you are one serious chick working hard to loose that extra inch (brownie points baby)

2) Warm water – instead of normal or cold temperature water, drink warm water the whole day. It helps 

3) Less Carbohydrates – instead of eating equal proportions of wheat /rice and vegetables…eat more veggies & proteins in form of fish or lentils and less rice or breads in your meals

4) Dress up – as I always say, dress stylish. Don’t wear tight fitted clothes which will only show all your love tyres around your waist but instead choose fits those are not too tight nor loose. Make you feel good but not uncomfortable. 

4) Wear your attitude & if possible heels too – wearing heels improves your posture and gives you a slender feel . If you are mom, let the daddy carry the child for once. Its ok!!

P.S. All the below pics are after I had my child. AND I do have my c-sec belly fat! 

Stay stylish💕
Love, Sujata 💋

AM HaPPiest wHen DanCIng! 🕺💃🕴️

One of my son’s favourite rhymes is”If you are happy and you know it, clap you hands..clap..clap”
My version goes as..”If you are stressed and you wanna be happy..dance…dance” 

Everyone should have a switch on and off to their brains ! With such a demanding stressed out life we all are leading, there are times when you just want to switch yourself out of that chaos and be in your own zone. Different people have different formulas to do that..cooking, reading, traveling, playing sports, gossiping, watching tv, taking out the frustration on someone else… well mine is dancing. 

DancIng is mediation for me..it keeps me positive and my soul happy!! It doesn’t matter if you are technically sound or not in any of the dance forms..I am not! Never been trained.  But still I dance..I dance from my heart…music brings life to my body and energy from within…and I just flow with the music in my world…moving and swinging along…

People go to parties you know for having a good time with friends on dinner and drinks..but for me the best evening would be where I can dance my heart out ; Where am so engrossed dancing that when am off my stilettoes am unaware…

Top 5 reasons to start Dancing if you haven’t yet :

1) Brings Happiness to you 😊

2) Helps in weight management 🔩 without feeling the pain in gym or dieting

3) Makes your body flexible

4) Popularity. For people at any party.. they look up to someone who starts the dance of the evening and you will instantly become the heart and life of the party 

5) It increases your hotness quotient 😉 if you have the moves..you gotta show it baby. 

Worth a try! Isn’t it?

Stay happy!! Keep dancing!!💞

Love, Sujata 💕

New Year Resolution – Stand for you rights, what you deserve for.

Actually the above is not my resolution of the year …Thats the change i want to see in myself…

As a daughter, sister, wife, daughter in-law, sister in-law, mother, employee, employer, senior, junior, friend…I guess in all my roles I never demanded for what I deserve. I always think that if I deserve I will get what I want…But in true world that’s not the case. 

I for the longest time now want to stand up for myself but I consistently fail. Why?? What I fear for, why I fear…I shouldn’t be in this position. Maybe I fear rejection. And hate uneasy mess in my world! I want a positive, happy environment around me all the time and that’s why I always want to keep people around me happy. What I can do for people around me..I try and do every bit of it, I walk that extra mile to keep smiles. But do I get my due in return..Well, not always. 

My family I know will stick around me all the time, but what about my other relationships. My efforts here will be paid off in long run.          But My friends..For whom I might be just any other friend whom they will forget once their purpose is sorted. My colleagues, who might just use me for their benefit and take out work from me and then move on in their life. My seniors at work, who again just want their work done and a pleasant face around them who doesn’t cribs and complains about anything.  People who work for me, maybe they are just happy sticking around me as I make no noise about job not done and don’t poke nose in the way they do their jobs…AND I in between of all this stand like a sponge ball.. Absorbing everything and wanting to spread happiness by not creating problems in others life by asking for anything for my own self. 

But does all this works for me…To some extent YES…As my people happy = Me happy 

But again, if I start asking people to give me or behave in a way I deserve for..Will that change the situation for any better. ? 

I have found I guess a good friend cum young sister kinds in one of my colleagues Isha…She is like fire to me..Always glowing, fearless, knows how to say NO, never apologetic for standing for her rights..What she feels she deserves for she would just go for it …Speaks her heart out & That’s what I want to become! (In some ways no too 🤣 that I can discuss later)

I hope am able to make this year a fantastic one. The change has to be made from within and the urge to change things for the better has been growing in me for a while now. I wish for overall well-being and nurturing of self-confidence and positive thinking for myself & everyone connected to me. God please help me in my mission. 🙏✌️

Love,

Sujata 💕

Birthday Letter to My Baby! Happy 3rd Devansh…🎊💐🎂🥂🎉

Dear Devansh, (Hi Baby)
Its feels so amazing and unreal at the very same time…you are turning 3 and so am I as a mother!! Feels like just the other day I had you in my arms… like a soft cuddly cotton ball for the 1st time in my hospital bed. The feeling The love The excitement..all is so fresh in our hearts and memories. You have made my life so beautiful..our little world so full of life!

There’s nothing in the world more previous than you..your hugs..your smile..You complete me baby! After marrying your father I always told him that he completes me, until one day I had you…I had never felt such a feeling of completeness from within, the feeling to protect someone, wanting to always be around.. take care off, cuddle, love, kiss ( which you might say to stop in coming few years) You complete US. 

A moment earlier we were celebrating the fact that you were standing..walking.. babbling the first words..had teeth..And look at you now! Monkey!! A chatter box!! Jumping jack!! … repeating everything we say.. giving everyone around directions as what to say or do to you. Climbing to the highest sofa points and jumping from there…making us nervous all the time. Being a boy…

Your love for alphabets & numbers is unmatched. For us you are a genius…you were reading and  writing alphabets/ numbers since you were an infant. Cars, TV, toys aren’t your thing…all you want is either your tab to look at nursery rhymes videos or write and play those educational applications or your writing boards. You make your Talking Tom’s & Talking Ben’s & Talking Ginger’s repeat rhymes, alphabets and numbers after you..they are your friends. You are writing words like “dolphin”, “eight” as if they are nothing. You are giving me language learning goals #You write and read numbers in Spanish??!! You are telling me planets name…!! I haven’t taught you this..YOU TUBE has…Your love for dogs & cats is pushing me to get you a pet soon. 

Few days ago it hit me that how independent you have become. I was leaving for office and you said “Bye Mumma” I/o wanted to stop me as usual. You now understand maybe that this lady is coming back to me anyhow..and have therefore learnt staying happy even w/o me…this is hard to accept as a mom. Its hard on me. Why do you have to grow so fast!? 

No matter how hard the day wad, you would always lighten it up with your smile. you are by motivation to keep going on.. being strong. You have filled our life with joy and laughter. Am grateful and thank God each day for this amazingly beautiful child he has gifted me with. You made me the happiest mom in the world! 

Happy 3rd Birthday Bhutts…I love you! Mwahh..💞

Love,

Mumma 💕

Can this Fashionista Mom..be a good Mom??!! ❣️🤔😎💭🚺⁉️

What’s the definition of a good mother? Who has defined what an ideal mother should be like? Am I one of those good & ideal mom’s the world admires ?? 

Well why do we mom’s even need to think about all these questions? Is it because I feel am being judged all the time! Think so yes… I feel a section of society or few from even my family take me by doubt if I think what to wear today or take 10 mins extra to put on my make up? 

Do you love your baby…Yes, ofcourse ..I do!! Why are you even asking me…

Do you love fashion…Yes, I do!! 
But how can you be 200% “The Mommy” if you aren’t thinking about your baby, his food, his routine…blah..blah..and stopping at your wardrobe thinking about which clothes to wear for work tomorrow! 

The world wants the mothers to be on their toes all the time either taking care of the babies, or cooking, or cleaning, or taking care of seniors, or … basically is busy doing something for others rather than herself!!…ugghh..stupid!  Well I had to grow up and grow out of this…AND so should you girl!!

Am a working mom and besides being the best mom in the world I have to prove myself the best at my job as well…Fashion derives my passion! Whichever job you maybe in but you can’t look like as if you are disinterested and coming to your job is just a.. you know.. routine thing…or you have any less interest in your job than your colleagues…

So you got to get up and take notice of yourself…stare yourself in the mirror and see if you wish to change anything…

Your baby is in love with you already…he doesn’t wants his mom to be loving him w/o loving herself. Just plan your day in such a way that you can take out some time for yourself, keep yourself motivated, pray or meditate for a while, exercise regularly even if for 10 mins, eat healthy, dress well. Your baby is the magic you created and you can keep him as happy as you feel from within!!

As I always say, keep it simple yet stylish!! 

How & What I am wearing : 

1) Wear on your basic jeggings @only with a comfy crop top @forever21 ; comfy all day long ballerina from @H&M and put on a biker jacket 100% leather to give yourself that edge at your workplace

2) Slip in a nice knee length dress, make sure the fit is right. {In case of bulges please workout and wear those aweful uncomfortable shapewears…} Accessories to add on will be your shades, watch, statement earrings, ring, bag and wedge heels for comfort

3) Patterned printed stretchable pants and w/o sleeves ivory silk shirt with Chinese collar from  @vanhausen . Throw on a blazer to get that semi formal office look. Again wedge heels for comfort and hair bun for fun!!

Stay inspired, Stay stylish!!

Love, Sujata 💕

I have nothing to WrItE BUT I will…and you must ReAd…

Why am I writing here when I have nothing specific to share!!?? Why am I trying to think..think hard…what am I trying to think??!!        Is it about life..my life..your life…about my child’s future life… strange…Donn know what.! Seriously!!  But exactly that’s the thought…does it happens to you..!? Am sure it does…we all keep thinking, keep our brains busy almost all the time. Thinking about what to do next, or why did we did something in the past…Our thoughts keep wandering without any anchor and we just don’t know where to pull ourselves back or put a stop on our brainless use of our own brains…

Somekind of passion, somekind of craziness….my stupid heart is talking about all these hundreds of things to me …

What’s the fun in talking sense always…its good to just flow in your thoughts and come to no exact conclusions… thinking about your past & present failures and successes with life, love, marriage, relationships, academics, work life, expectations, parents, affairs, bosses, crushes, travels, what I could have shopped that day, the street side vendor, my maid’s kids, an Ambani’s life, Shahrukh Khan, Branjila’s divorce, anything…

Believe me it will refresh you in a new way..

Goodnight peeps. Sleep tight, dream well..& those who are starting their day, rise and shine..be radiant ..like always. Remember “You are better than your competition…”

Love, Sujata 💕

P.S. Thanks to my baby who slept well on time today & my husband who’s surprise presentation preparation at office today gave me this ME time with myself..and now I will sleep tight..sleep light …

Life of Fashionista Mother! 💞 #fashion #motherhood #love #life

I started writing blogs because of my 2.5 year old son & my love for fashion. They are my reasons. While I would put him to sleep daily night singing lullabies I would often think what after this. ..and ended up on social networking sites just browsing crap.

He generally dozes off by 10ish and I can’t sleep before 11.30 ( old habits die hard) !!…So springed the idea of writing something in this “ME” time…My journey began with Google, looking for apt answers for my questions…

– What are blogs ? (Complete world is either busy writing or reading one)

– How are they written? (Since I left creative writing ever since left school)

– Who reads them? (I never did earlier if not promoted by my friends, until I got my own blog started)

Finally I gathered myself and wrote something about that crossed my thoughts first and closest to my heart…that was FASHION, LIFE & MOTHERHOOD..( If you happen to read them…well…God save you…its a “khichdi”..as we Indians say)

So cheers to My son that I could come up with something meaningful other than my home & work life! And to deep dive into My love for Fashion…Mwahh…

The toughest thing to do after you become a mother is to dress up, dress up well…When at home I was a “one of the boobs out of my shirt always” mom! And then grabbing anything to wear when getting ready for office. Always short of time…not wanting to spend time on thinking about clothes.. Whenever shopping it’s always baby stuff on mind…If you think of dressing up, the baby poops …The list can go on & on…

Though I was in the happiest mode of life with the arrival of my bundle of joy ; Somewhere deep inside I was missing my Fashionista Self! My preggers days were fashionable too…so what happened to me now???…I kept thinking if I was really happy from within …I surely love my child..nothing gives me a greater sense of satisfaction, love, belonging than him..but I wanted to love myself too! Without feeling guilty…without being over whelmed with the suggestions & advises on how to keep my baby well, how to take care of him, who should be my priority, how will I attain the highest space in  ladder of motherhood by sacrificing myself…

So after months of initial struggle I finally could break my own created shell and started dressing up the way I used to, I love to!! And bonus was being able to dress up #mylittleman #mymunchkin fashionably as well!! Brownie motivation for me…

So would like to share some simple tips on young & fresh moms on dressing up:

1. Keep it simple, slip in a nice dress – always works with the little baby bump left too

2. Tie your hair in a bun so it doesn’t bothers your child, is hygienic & you can look super stylish too

3. Wear wedges I/o of heels!! Believe me with a baby in your arms you definitely need a more stable solid footwear to keep your stable & stylish

Be inspired, Be Stylish!! 

Love, Sujata 💕

#fashion # motherhood #life #love #style